I have been absent from blogging for about 2 months now. Seems to be an epidemic with me lately. I have been distracted from many things lately. Mostly life. I might be there in body, but the soul? Well…. it’s thinking about other things, and wondering where all the time went.
Kenny after his bath 1996
You see, my oldest of 2 children is headed off to college. This is truly something to be celebrated, as there were other paths he could have taken and this by far was the one that all parents hope for. Not only is Kenny going to college, but he is headed to the college that both Jim and I graduated from. A really nice nod for a kid to give his parents. It does make you proud. The one thing that is hard to swallow is that he is 2300 miles away from home. Far away from Marin County, really really far away. Three time zones and a whole other climate away. It’s good though, it’s all good (I say this over and over again while rocking back and forth). Only kidding, I’m not that bad…… yet. I have been known to spontaneously burst out into tears, though. I know there are other moms out there just like me, feeling the same way I do. Right?!
I guess you could say I am somewhat in mourning. I call it “mourning” because it is a type of loss. Please, stay with me here and let me explain. I do tend to over-exaggerate. I think anytime your child hits a benchmark, you are both proud and sad. Think of the first day your child goes to Kindergarten, you are so proud, but you are crying, right? Life is changing, he is on his way to his grade school years…. your family dynamic is changing. Right?! It’s exciting- but that little baby that needed you for everything doesn’t need you as much.
Well, with Kenny leaving for this new chapter of his life, our family that was once a family of 4 is now 3. I know Kenny is still our child, but the next time he comes home (Christmas Vacation) he will be his own person (he will think he can do whatever he wants under our roof, which is not how it will work), and it will be very different for us to parent him.
On our way to the airport to take Kenny to MSU
Fast forward to a few weeks later. Kenny was dropped off to Michigan State University. We (Jim, Will and I) took him there on Sunday the 24th of August. We spent the day moving him into his 12′ x 12′ room, unloading all of his belongings and searching for a futon at any shop nearby that happened to have one left, for any price. The difference between boys and girls, is more pronounced and evident with this experience. In my opinion anyway….. The girls decorate their rooms and make their beds, adding throw pillows that in the end are pretty and inspiring, while the boys (especially my son) throw their beds together and call it a day. I went to great lengths, to make sure that his bedding and hamper matched the huge brown carpet that I spent hours searching for on the internet. Choosing just the right one, that wasn’t feminine at all.
Kenny “making” his bed with his roommate Matt
I spent weeks, crafting a quilt, a one of a kind quilt, that in the end was tossed up on his bunk like a bunch of dirty laundry. And, although these things came together, and made me feel sad, the hardest moment was that last hug….. the last embrace. My son, now a young man doesn’t need me in the way he used to and was ready to let me go. We spent the last 17 years preparing for this very moment. It’s not like we didn’t see it coming or even that it wasn’t something we fully supported. That’s what good parenting is, I guess. If your kid is able to leave the nest and feel confident, safe and equipped to handle what life throws his way…. then you have done pretty well. He has his “tools” now it’s time for him to “build” something.
I free motioned part of the MSU fight song around the border.
Here is Kenny’s one of a kind quilt. The quilt pattern (referred to as the water waves quilt) was a pattern that I got from Must Love Quilts. It’s a fast and easy quilt. And for Kenny, it was more on the masculine side. Green and white fabrics were a great choice for Kenny since these are MSU colors.
Here, Kenny is telling me to “hurry up and take the picture”.
I did a stippling free-motion for the quilting on this quilt. Super fun to do!
There is camo binding around the entire quilt.
My favorite part. The back with a Spartan, surrounded by MSU fabrics.
These are wonky cut 1/2 square triangles. I was going to do the whole quilt out of these, so glad that I didn’t. I had a very hard time finding the licensed MSU fabric on-line. I stocked up when I visited Michigan! I am all set for the next Michigan State University project.
So, as for now it has been a week since Kenny started his new adventure, and us, ours. Today has been hard, but like so many mother’s before me, I will get through it and it will all be okay. Perhaps a cupcake would make me feel better. It couldn’t hurt, right?
Thanks for stopping by. Until next time, keep creating!